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Coaching Your Employees

Many employers sit their workers down once a year for a review. At that time, the employee finds out what they’ve been doing right or if there are areas in need of improvement. But what happens the other 364 days of the year?

Coaching is a different approach to developing employees’ potential. With coaching, you provide your staff the opportunity to grow and achieve optimal performance through consistent feedback, counseling and mentoring. Rather than relying solely on a review schedule, you can support employees along the path to meeting their goals. Done in the right way, coaching is perceived as a roadmap for success and a benefit. Done incorrectly and employees may feel berated, unappreciated, even punished.

These seven steps, when followed, can help create a positive environment for providing feedback.

Step 1: Build a Relationship of Mutual Trust
The foundation of any coaching relationship is rooted in the manager’s day-to-day relationship with the employee. Without some degree of trust, conducting an effective coaching meeting is impossible.

Step 2: Open the Meeting
In opening a coaching meeting, it’s important for the manager to clarify, in a nonevaluative, nonaccusatory way, the specific reason the meeting was arranged. The key to this step is to restate — in a friendly, nonjudgmental manner — the meeting purpose that was first set when the appointment was scheduled.

Step 3: Get Agreement
Probably the most critical step in the coaching meeting process is getting the employee to agree verbally that a performance issue exists. Overlooking or avoiding the performance issue because you assume the employee understands its significance is a typical mistake of managers. To persuade an employee a performance issue exists, a manager must be able to define the nature of the issue and get the employee to recognize the consequences of not changing his or her behavior. To do this, you must specify the behavior and clarify the consequences.

The skill of specifying the behavior consists of three parts.

  1. Cite specific examples of the performance issue.
  2. Clarify your performance expectations in the situation.
  3. Asks the employee for agreement on the issue.

The skill of clarifying consequences has two parts.

  1. Probe to get the employee to articulate his or her understanding of the consequences associated with the performance issue.
  2. Ask the employee for agreement on the issue.

Step 4: Explore Alternatives
Next, explore ways the issue can be improved or corrected by encouraging the employee to identify alternative solutions. Avoid jumping in with your own alternatives, unless the employee is unable to think of any. Push for specific alternatives and not generalizations. Your goal in this step is not to choose an alternative, which is the next step, but to maximize the number of choices for the employee to consider and to discuss their advantages and disadvantages.

This requires the skill of reacting and expanding. You should acknowledge the employee’s suggestion, discuss the benefits and drawbacks of the suggestion, ask for and offer additional suggestions, and ask the employee to explain how to resolve the issue under discussion.

Step 5: Get a Commitment to Act
The next step is to help the employee choose an alternative. Don’t make the choice for the employee. To accomplish this step, the manager must be sure to get a verbal commitment from the employee regarding what action will be taken and when it will be taken. Be sure to support the employee’s choice and offer praise.

Step 6: Handle Excuses
Employee excuses may occur at any point during the coaching meeting. To handle excuses, rephrase the point by taking a comment or statement that was perceived by the employee to be blaming or accusatory and recast it as an encouragement for the employee to examine his or her behavior. Respond empathically to show support for the employee’s situation and communicate an understanding of both the content and feeling of the employee’s comment.

Step 7: Provide Feedback
Effective coaches understand the value and importance of giving continual performance feedback to their people, both positive and corrective.

There are a few critical things to remember when giving feedback to others. Feedback should:

  • Be timely. It should occur as soon as practical after the interaction, completion of the deliverable, or observation is made.
  • Be specific. Statements like “You did a great job” or “You didn’t take care of the clients’ concerns very well” are too vague and don’t give enough insight into the behavior you would like to see repeated or changed.
  • Focus on the “what,” not the “why.” Avoid making the feedback seem as if it is a judgment. Begin with “I have observed…” or “I have seen…” and then refer to the behavior. Focus on behavior and not the person. Describe what you heard and saw and how those behaviors impact the team, client, etc.
  • Use a sincere tone of voice. Avoid a tone that exhibits anger, frustration, disappointment or sarcasm.

Positive feedback strengthens performance. People will naturally go the extra mile when they feel recognized and appreciated. When corrective feedback is handled poorly, it will be a significant source of friction and conflict. When it is handled well, people will experience the positive effects and performance is strengthened.

The Solution To Life Problems

In reality there are no problems… only the lack of understanding that creates the frustration and incapacity to move forward.

Once the understanding is developed… through growth…, the frustration is removed and forward progress resumes.

If we are frustrated now it is because we have reached a place where our growth has not prepared us to be.  The frustration is the symptom that growth is required.

Listen to the symptoms and re-engage growth to become everything you are capable of being.

The Secret to Creating a Positive Existence

“What is wrong with my life? I have learned many things and have done everything in accordance with rules for positive living, but my life has stayed the same. Why?”

The following expaination is based upon the Bible verse: Romans 12:2 “Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of the mind”

How the mind works

Here is the explanation:

“First, the statement: “I learned many things, but my life stayed the same” is understandable from the science’s point of view. It is all about people’s minds and habits.

We have two minds: the conscious mind (CM) and the subconscious mind (SCM).

The CM is our thinking mind, which includes aspirations, goals and ambitions. It represents usand we have power over our conscious mind.

The subconscious mind is our habit mind

It is just a “recording device,” recording our life’s experiences since we were a child. We had no power over our SCM when we were recording our life’s experiences.

Since day one, we have taped the behavior, feelings, moods and attitudes of our parents, family members, peers and the social environment around us. Therefore, our subconscious mind represents others.

Now, comes the first point: The conscious and subconscious minds are not connected in the way we believe they are. They are two different parts of the same human mind’s nature. They are working in separate pathways, not exchanging information! Because of this fact, we can consciously learn something using the aware part of the mind, but this will not change the subconscious mind.

Why? Because there is no direct communication between these two minds. Just conscious learning will not change the nature of the subconscious mind.

How to change subconscious minds

The only one way to change the SCM is to override the old programs and re-record new programs.

How? In the same way we have learned old programs; repeating a hundred times new skills (programs), so they will become habits. Remember how we learned walking, talking or riding a bike.

Unfortunately, when we learn something, the information doesn’t cross from the conscious to the subconscious mind directly.

This is the reason why using only our conscious mind, we cannot change our subconscious mind.

Now we understand why some people struggle in life. They have a “good program” in their conscious mind, but they have a “bad program” in their subconscious mind which is not supporting their destination.

Or, we can say people want to change or learn to change, but they do not have support from their subconscious mind. If we want to succeed, our conscious and subconscious mind should be in agreement.

Who is winner in the battle between the conscious and subconscious mind?

I am sure you know the answer; it is the subconscious mind!

Why?

The reason is this: 95% of our life is a printout of our subconscious mind — which is other peoples’ programs.

The remaining 5% comes from our desires, goals and aspirations — which is our conscious mind.”

Conclusion

Despite this explanation, we are not victims of our subconscious mind. We have the power to override the old programs and record new ones, if we know what is limiting us.